How to Love a Man
by Adaeze M. Nwadike
Nights would come, when the hardness of your man wouldn’t come as a result
of your washed laps
Or the drawness of your soup
Or your years of sacrifice.
It would escape when a neighbor’s wife smiles
Or when a lady who hasn’t been bent by the harshness of a dying child
This lady who knows no pain.
On such nights, don’t close your legs. Just tighten the muscles of your
laps so he begs a little.
Don’t let out a moan, it isn’t yours.
Close your eyes and become a sailing boat. You are going a place.
Your mother was there before you.
If a tear tries to escape your eyes, roll it back. Your daughters would be
At that point when he orgasms, stop your heart and start all over again.
poem: Adaeze M. Nwadike writes from Nsukka where she has just completed a B.Ed/Eng. She was shortlisted in the 2016 Nigerian students’ poetry award. She was also in the BN poetry long list in 2015, and was 3rd prize in poetry for the Muse journal in the same year. Her poems and stories have appeared on many journals. She is currently working on a collection of poems.
photograph: “Morning pictures (2)” ©onetouch grafix